When Divorced Couples Remarry … Each Other

 Posted on December 00, 0000 in Divorce

When one or both partners in a marriage decide to pursue a divorce, the thought of remarriage is not usually among the matters under immediate consideration. However, over time, remarriage is something  that many divorced individuals pursue, even remarrying the same person they previously divorced.

To some, the thought of remarrying the same person you just divorced may sound ridiculous. After all, whether the divorce process was amicable or hostile, so much time, energy, money, and emotion was spent settling issues such as alimony and support, custody and visitation, and division of marital assets. The reality is that some couples eventually realize, after time spent apart, that remarrying their “ex” is right for them.

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Divorce and Your Credit Score

 Posted on December 00, 0000 in Divorce

Divorce is often viewed by some as getting out of a bad situation. However, what many are unprepared for is the impact the divorce can have on their own credit score. Following a divorce, one can discover that his or her income, even with alimony or other support payments, is not enough to cover expenses.

Falling behind on monthly bills, running up large amounts of debt, or failing to curb your expenses to meet the new income restrictions a divorce often brings may all negatively impact your credit score.

Tips for Managing and Monitoring Your Credit Score During a Divorce

Consider implementing some or all of these tips to help monitor and maintain your credit history during and following your divorce.

• Get a copy of your credit report as soon as you know a divorce is looming. This helps you understand the bills and expenses that appear there, as well as those debts for you which you are responsible and those which are shared.

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Divorce and Hiring a Private Investigator

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When considering a divorce, or learning of a spouse’s intent to file for divorce, one usually looks to hire a skilled divorce attorney. This is a good first instinct. However, another hire you may wish to consider is that of a private investigator.

Even if you think the divorce might be amicable, the assistance of a professional and experienced investigator may be worth every bit of the expense.

How a Private Investigator Help

Depending on the issues surrounding your divorce, the information your private investigator uncovers may assist with matters related to alimony, child custody and visitation, asset allocation, and support payments.

Consider a summary of areas in which a private investigator may prove most helpful:

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The Amicable Separation and Divorce

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Going through a separation and divorce is difficult for everyone involved. Even the spouse who initiates the process probably feels some level of guilt, anxiety, or apprehension. After all, a marriage is intended to last forever.

But instead of family vacations and parties, thoughts turn to matters of alimony, custody, division of assets, and other unpleasantries.

However, it is not unheard of for a separation and eventual divorce to take on an amicable tone. When both parties are willing to work through the process, then things can proceed more quickly and with less animosity.

If an amicable process is something you desire be sure to make your divorce lawyer aware of your preference.

Tips for an Amicable Separation and Divorce

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The Importance of Communication during Divorce

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Many believe that open and honest communication is an important part of maintaining a good relationship. However, that same thing can be said for those going through a divorce who wish to find a fast resolution, as well as need to maintain some form of relationship with their ex-spouse once the marriage has ended.

Keeping the Lines of Communication Open and Positive

No two people begin a marriage with the thought that it will end prematurely. However, open and calm communication tends to be more productive in seeing the divorce through to a satisfying resolution. Here are few tips to consider while attempting to maintain open communication during your divorce.

• Although they may be the last person to whom you wish to speak, sitting across a table from your spouse to discuss how each foresees divorce proceedings taking place can help each better prepare for the coming months.

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Habits That End Marriages

 Posted on December 00, 0000 in Divorce

Everyone has a habit that others find annoying or irritating, but something like biting one’s fingernails probably doesn’t qualify as a marriage breaker. However, those who work with couples and deal with divorce tend to hear about the things that spouses do that ultimately lead to the end of a marriage.

Potentially Destructive Behavior

While infidelity certainly has a damaging impact on any marriage, there are far more subtle actions a spouse might engage in that can harm a partner and move a relationship beyond the point of repair. If you engage in any of the following behaviors or recognize them in your spouse, it might be a red flag that your marriage is headed for divorce:

• Fixating on the other person’s shortcomings: Perhaps they are not as funny as a previous partner or don’t clean the kitchen as well as you’d like, even keeping mental notes on these perceived failings could spell doom.

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Heading for Divorce?

 Posted on December 00, 0000 in Divorce

Over the course of any marriage, spouses will fight. It is a fact. However,  the subject of those fights and the ways in which spouses choose to fight (or not fight) can dictate whether or not a fight is but a precursor to divorce. A fight does not have to signal the end of a relationship, especially if it is about something that a couple can work through with some effort and common sense.

What Are You Fighting About?

Difference pertaining to the handling of finances frequently are the cause of fights between spouses. However, not all fights are about mishandling the checking account. Here’s a list of things couples fight about that might seem minor, but have proven to create major battles in some relationships.

• The remote control: Spouses have been known to quarrel over who holds the remote, how loud is the TV and what to watch. Perhaps this is why many homes have more than one television set.

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What Happens When a Death Occurs During Divorce?

 Posted on December 00, 0000 in Divorce

The divorce process is fraught with questions and uncertainty. It also results in heightened anxiety and feelings of depression, anger, relief and a variety of other emotions. However, that uncertainty and swirl of emotions can reach a new level if one spouse unexpectedly dies prior to a final divorce decree.

From Almost Ex-Spouses to Widow (or Widower)

In addition to the legal issues under review as part of the divorce, the surviving spouse often must deal with questions pertaining to how to grieve and handling expressions of condolence from others. While the legal path to resolve matters may be more clear, both it and the emotional side of things can present challenges.

From the legal aspect:

• A difficult matter takes on a new level of complexity.
• When your spouse dies prior to a finalized divorce this does not entitle you to immediately take possession of all the assets that were the subject of division negotiations.

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Worst Case Scenario Divorce

 Posted on December 00, 0000 in Divorce

For some people, the divorce experience is fraught with stress, uncertainty, dread and other feelings of ill will. It did not start out that way, but once reality sets in and attorneys begin discussing the matters of custody, asset division and other financial issues it is not uncommon for bad feelings to surface.

Handling the Worst a Divorce Has to Offer

Fears of being “taken to the cleaners” can cause a person to lose sleep, become bitter and even react overly aggressive in a situation when calm behavior might be best. When you dread getting out of bed because you have to go meet your ex-spouse and their attorney it can have a negative effect on others areas of your life. Perhaps consider this routine to get a grip of your concerns and create a plan to control your emotions.

• Step 1: Write down the worst outcome(s) of the divorce you can imagine. Many fear being left broke and in debt, stuck in what seems like a never-ending divorce, and without a meaningful relationship with their children.

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Serving Divorce Papers on Social Media

 Posted on December 00, 0000 in Divorce

The introduction and evolution of social media has made a huge impact on a variety of personal and business matters. Now it seems that some people are using social media platforms as a means for expediting the serving of divorce papers to hard to find spouses. This new use of social media platforms has the potential to provide some measure of simplicity in what at times is a time-consuming process.

A New Use for Facebook

As it turns out, an increasing number of judges are approving the use of Facebook to serve hard-to-find spouses because more and more people are easier to find through their online activity. In one of the first cases addressing the issue, the petitioner claimed that even employment of a private investigator provided no results in locating her spouse. However, she had a cell phone number and knowledge of an active social media account used by the husband. The presiding judge ruled that the increased use of social media in a growing number of aspects in life allowed for it to be used as a new forum for delivering a summons. Other benefits of using social media include:

• Facebook posts include time stamps and automatic notifications of who sees the post and when they view it.

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